Why Women Settle and Give Up On Their Dreams

When women come to see me for life and career coaching or homeopathy, I often find myself saying, “ You really do deserve to be happy.” With this statement I often receive a perplexed expression as their reply. Such a simple and somewhat obvious statement, but surprisingly for many women, it rings distant from their reality.

Their confused stare translates to, “Really? But how can this be? How could that actually happen? True happiness seems so far from my life that I honestly have no idea how to get there.”

I don’t mean that all women are walking around miserable. Far from that. However, deserving to be happy can have many connotations. It can mean the opportunity to have all they desire in life, to reach their dreams or to be completely fulfilled and content right where they are.

Many women tell me they remember having dreams and longings at some point in their lives, but over time, have lost touch with these aspirations. At this junction, these desires seem more like fantasies. Many women have expressed to me that they feel so trapped within their circumstances that happiness has meant settling, or making the best of what they really do not want.

Why is this so? And how did this happen? Is it a message we have unconsciously inherited from our mothers that says, “This is the best you’ll get or the best you can do, so deal with it”? Is it ideology from Cinderella and Superwoman gone astray? Or has it been the many disappointments in love, a dead-end quest for a dream career or never making it past surviving on a month-to-month income while juggling the responsibilities of home, work and family? Or maybe one has a great job, but it leaves no time for anything but the job? And the push for all of this has left many women feeling overwhelmed, lost and just plain tired. Read more »

Optimism and Happiness At Work- Find Out How

“Entrepreneurs are optimists,” says Stephanie Gunning, publishing strategist, author, and host of the inspiring Audacious Creativity webinar series. A few weeks ago, Stephanie (a key supporter of mine while I was launching my book Blast Off!) invited me to come on her program and share my insights on starting their own businesses with her listeners.

 

 Stephanie Gunning Interviews Allison Maslan of Blast Off [69:27m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

As a small business owner and consultant in her own field, she respects what it took for me to create eight successful businesses since I was 23, including an ad agency, a homeopathic college, and a scuba diving shop.l

“Allison,” Stephanie said to me, “You knows firsthand how to turn passion into profits, and how to help people to discover their life’s purpose. My listeners would benefit from your advice about keeping going even in a down economy. The only thing stopping many people seems to be fear.”

On Wednesday, May 20, at 5 PM Pacific/8 PM Eastern, you’re invited to attend Stephanie 60-minute webinar, where she’ll interview me, on “Creating Financial Freedom By Starting Your Own Business: Why Losing (or Leaving) Your Job Might Be the Very Best Thing That Ever Happened to You.”

To Learn More about Allison Maslan

The event is free of charge to anyone who registers. It can be attended by phone or via the Internet (it’s your choice).

Click here to sign up for the Webinar

Feel free to sign up, even if you think you will be busy that night. The call is being recorded so you can replay it at your convenience. And leave us a question in the Q&A box on the webinar page. During the event, we will do our best to answer every question that’s been posted.

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Why Losing Your Job Could Be The Best Thing That Happens To You

Microsoft chief executive officer Steve Ballmer told Stanford University students last week that it’s a mistake not to love your job. Acknowledging our tough times, he reminded them that there is still more venture capital available than innovative ideas for its use.

If that wasn’t enough of a reason to get out of a job that’s not nourishing your soul, consider this: Paradigm shifts in technology are creating opportunities in every field. We just have to give ourselves permission to go and grab those opportunities when we see them! This webinar is a good place to begin if you’re ready for change–or had one forced on you.

To Learn More about Allison Maslan

I have tremendous respect for Stephanie, who is going to interview me on topics such as:

• What makes this a good time to start a business venture?
• Tips to figure out what kind of business to start
• How to start a new business while working in your old job
• The cardinal rule of business success (can you guess this one?)
• How to stay motivated and positive when naysayers, doubting relatives, and environmental negativity surround you
• What kind of “ducks” need to be “put in a row” when you launch a business (legal, accounting, web support, vision statement, and more)?